So, my daughter got married this weekend.
If you know anything about weddings, then you know that plans were made well in advance. Of course, this being 2020, the Year of COVID, plans mean nothing. Steeped in the Scots' tradition as my family is, these concepts are in our DNA. Where it's common for people to say, "Man plans, and God laughs," we are well-versed in the vicissitudes of life: "The best laid schemes of mice and men/ go oft awry..."
There are two parts to a wedding, when you get right down to it. There's "the thing," which is the legal/ceremonial joining of a couple, and there's the celebration. In the here and now, with COVID restrictions being what they are, it is neither legal nor responsible to have the second part. The first part, however, can be had, with sacrifice. My daughter, much like her parents, cares more for how things are than for how they appear. And like her parents, she wanted to be married to the man she loves when she wanted it. The end.
We love our children, and the only thing that has ever mattered to us is their happiness. So we did what we needed to do to help make sure that she had the day she wanted. And she was happy. I've never seen her smile so much as she did on her wedding day, and that's saying something, because she's a pretty happy person.
She was married outdoors, in a gazebo in a park near where she grew up. With COVID restrictions being what they are, her entire wedding consisted of her and the groom, their attendants (one each), the officiant, and a photographer.
My wife and I watched from our car, in a parking lot, over 100 feet away. We listened to the ceremony over a phone.
It was lovely. We were very happy.
It wasn't what our daughter had planned, but, at the end of the day, she got what she really wanted, what was really important, which was to be married to her guy, the man she loves.
She's happy. We're happy.
The problem with freedom is that a great many people don't know what it really means. Freedom isn't doing whatever you want whenever you want. In a civilized society, freedom comes with rights and responsibilities. If you really want something, sometimes you have to compromise. If you really want something, sometimes you have to sacrifice. Smart, responsible people get this.
My daughter is married. She is happy. My new son-in-law is great.
I helped raise a smart, determined, responsible, happy person.
At the end of the day, what more should a father want?
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